I have been with my partner for three years and our sex life is dead suddenly. Is it normal and how long would you go before the question begins?
If the sex stopped suddenly it could be that something is wrong or at least it’s not talking. The frequency of the sex vary in relationships varies from a couple and some partners remain together as well as the sexual side to their relationship. It’s all normal. But if you are unhappy or concerned with sex aren’t you or are not, why don’t you talk? Don’t assume your partner will bring it. Be proactive in your relationship and address something that does not feel well.
I have a fetish for semi-public sex. What do you mean this meaning and how can I indulge this without getting too many problems?
Human beings are a different species. We have different backgrounds and are activated by different things. Some people enjoy the thrill they could be seen or hit the act of having sex. Enjoy sex in the presence of other people do not mean anything bad, but everly if you do something that breaks the law, there may be consequences. A worst scenario is charged as a sex offender. You considered to go to a group or club that meets in a closed environment where you can enjoy your fetish? Sydney has a number of sex posts in place where this is possible. There are also private associations that is about fetiches.
I am a man gay man who started to focus with a trans a trans. Does this make me less gay?
Is the label that put you more important than the pleasure or love you experience with your partner? There are such an emphasis on these days of defining, it makes me wonder if sometimes we have not trapped by words that were meant to us. If your gay identity is important to you then hang. If it doesn’t fit, let it go and find something that fits better. You are free to describe yourself feel more comfortable. So make the most of your freedom and enjoy time with your trans
My partner is in odd fets that seems super offensive and annoying. What can i do about it?
What is it to be offended and beat? And why are you in here with this person? Are they fascinated by something you have found repulsive? You need to work for yourself because these things your partner makes that effect on you. Is that because you are afraid or don’t understand them? These fetishes go against your values? Or do you think they are getting the relationship at risk? It is important that there are guided by our values because they include they can let you feel conflicts. At the same time, new sexual experiences can challenge us to leave beliefs that are not useful. Talk to a therapist can be a first step to put things in their place. And, once you worked because you are offended, you need to have a conversation with your partner to find a forward mode.
My partner began discussing opening our relationship but I don’t like the idea of all. Are prone to jealousy and are not convinced. What can I do?
It seems you are not ready for this step your partner wants to take. And if the relationship is not enough to open sex with others would be a good idea to work to make it more secure than any decisions. Otherwise can lead to one or two partners feel cheaters. Open relationships can bring adventure, excitement and new experiences to pairs. At the same time, present larger risks and require negotiation. Practical matters such as sexual health needs consideration. Even if you decide you don’t want to open the relationship, maybe this is the time to open the jealousy arrives at the bottom of what you keep return. Talk to your partner or professional on those feelings, as a first step.
Ash Rehn is a social health worker and the Narrative the Terrative Theraperist, who worked the Gay and Bisexual men for the last 27 years. It is specialized in porn and sex addiction and anxiety, depression problems and relationship in lgbrqi communities. For more information, visit their website to www.ghaycounsellor.com.au or send it an email to ash@foróoccondrapy.com